Comments on: having diabetes and making changes with no support system? http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system Best Information on Diabetes and Diet Sun, 25 Sep 2011 09:08:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Bob T http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system/comment-page-1#comment-1616 Bob T Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:02:59 +0000 http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system#comment-1616 Do what you need to do & let the world go on around you. County hospitals have programs for people with no insurance or try a free clinic in your area.<br><b>References : </b><br> Do what you need to do & let the world go on around you. County hospitals have programs for people with no insurance or try a free clinic in your area.
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]]> By: Ghosthunters Cook Book http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system/comment-page-1#comment-1615 Ghosthunters Cook Book Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:20:59 +0000 http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system#comment-1615 You and only you are in control of how you react to this disease. First go talk to a Diabetes Educator/ Nutritionist. They can help you set up an eating plan. Plus you will have 'it in writing' to show your boyfriend. Don't go into a long explanation to your 'friends', just say you ate what you could and stick to your guns, real friends will understand. A long explanation and apologies just sounds whiny. Now the boyfriend problem--do you understand that he is being not only careless but also abusive? To a diabetic food can be your medicine or your poison. And having a baby right now is not a good idea (in fact if your diabetes is way out of control you might not be able to get pregnant). Out of control diabetes is not only dangerous to you, but terrible to your baby-it can even cause stillbirth. Once you have the diabetes under control, than you can start thinking about a family. But if this boyfriend cannot commit to being supportive of your health now, is he gong to be able to commit to raising a child?.<br><b>References : </b><br>34 years type 1 You and only you are in control of how you react to this disease. First go talk to a Diabetes Educator/ Nutritionist. They can help you set up an eating plan. Plus you will have ‘it in writing’ to show your boyfriend. Don’t go into a long explanation to your ‘friends’, just say you ate what you could and stick to your guns, real friends will understand. A long explanation and apologies just sounds whiny.
Now the boyfriend problem–do you understand that he is being not only careless but also abusive? To a diabetic food can be your medicine or your poison.
And having a baby right now is not a good idea (in fact if your diabetes is way out of control you might not be able to get pregnant). Out of control diabetes is not only dangerous to you, but terrible to your baby-it can even cause stillbirth. Once you have the diabetes under control, than you can start thinking about a family. But if this boyfriend cannot commit to being supportive of your health now, is he gong to be able to commit to raising a child?.
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]]> By: sue http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system/comment-page-1#comment-1614 sue Thu, 29 Oct 2009 14:35:59 +0000 http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system#comment-1614 It isn't the SUGAR at all! It is entirely the CARBS. I eat the fried foods, I don't try to go low fat here. Just low carbs. NO rice or beans! I do eat the enchiladas, chili relenos and all that. If you can keep your carb counts at about 100 to 125 per day you will be way ahead. You are so right about needing a healthy mommy before having a baby!! If your gentleman "friend" can't or won't understand, you may need ot get another one. Doesn't matter how long this relationship has been, if he isn't going to support you then you need to lose him!!!<br><b>References : </b><br> It isn’t the SUGAR at all! It is entirely the CARBS.

I eat the fried foods, I don’t try to go low fat here. Just low carbs. NO rice or beans! I do eat the enchiladas, chili relenos and all that.

If you can keep your carb counts at about 100 to 125 per day you will be way ahead.

You are so right about needing a healthy mommy before having a baby!! If your gentleman "friend" can’t or won’t understand, you may need ot get another one. Doesn’t matter how long this relationship has been, if he isn’t going to support you then you need to lose him!!!
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]]> By: Gary B http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system/comment-page-1#comment-1613 Gary B Thu, 29 Oct 2009 14:08:59 +0000 http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system#comment-1613 No use whining about a "support system". YOU are your Support System. You and only you can control this disease -- everybody else be damned. I've fought the same basic problem for the last 27 years. "No one" understand me. WAAAHHH! No one NEEDS to understand you, except your doctor. YOU must take control of this disease, or it will take control of you. DO NOT be concerned about what others think. it is petty and childish of them to be "insulted" when you don't particpate in a "delicious" meal. YOU understand your problem, and YOU are doing the right thing. It takes "won't power" -- I won't eat this, and I won't eat that. It take a real set of solid steele balls to go out with friends and order chips and water! But if you want to stay alive, you have GOT to stop sharing pizza and desserts! [BTW: Rice a serious source of carbs. Get double beans instead. Pizza is a high-fat item, which aggravates your cholesterol problem -- not to mention the load of suagr in the tomato sauce.]. Don't bother to educate -- that just makes them defensive. Say, "No. Thank you." YOU are the one with the diseas, not them. YOU are the one resposible for controlling it, not them. As for the boyfriend -- schedule a diabetic education class, and take him with you. If he is a serious relationship in your life (read that ponential husband) then he MUST understand the disease. Frankly, this is a deal breaker. If he is not going to support your change in lifestyle (including weight loss) you may need to consider another boyfriend. Try to find a class where they emphasize the bloody details -- gangrene, amputations, skin ulcers, blindness, Alzheimers, kidney disease. Find out what a Peritoneal Dialysis Cannula is, and ask him if he'd like to have sex while you are wearing THAT. For that matter, diabetes effects the nerves, and many diabetic patients can't enjoy sex. Would HE be quite so happy if YOU can't enjoy it, or is he just a male chauvinist pig? As for babies, diabetes during pregnancy can cause miscarriages or birth defects. Your control of your disease protects HIS future son or daughter! I know that YOU are aware of the problems. but don't let others "shame" you into losing control of your life. They don't, AND THEY WON'T, understand. Control of diabetes is TOTALLY up to you, and in some cases you have to be a complete jerk about it -- "That's a wonderful meal, Mary, but i can't eat any of it. Do you have water?" Take care of yourself, and don't worry about what others think. <br><b>References : </b><br> No use whining about a "support system". YOU are your Support System. You and only you can control this disease — everybody else be damned.

I’ve fought the same basic problem for the last 27 years. "No one" understand me. WAAAHHH! No one NEEDS to understand you, except your doctor.

YOU must take control of this disease, or it will take control of you. DO NOT be concerned about what others think. it is petty and childish of them to be "insulted" when you don’t particpate in a "delicious" meal. YOU understand your problem, and YOU are doing the right thing.

It takes "won’t power" — I won’t eat this, and I won’t eat that. It take a real set of solid steele balls to go out with friends and order chips and water! But if you want to stay alive, you have GOT to stop sharing pizza and desserts! [BTW: Rice a serious source of carbs. Get double beans instead. Pizza is a high-fat item, which aggravates your cholesterol problem -- not to mention the load of suagr in the tomato sauce.].

Don’t bother to educate — that just makes them defensive. Say, "No. Thank you." YOU are the one with the diseas, not them. YOU are the one resposible for controlling it, not them.

As for the boyfriend — schedule a diabetic education class, and take him with you. If he is a serious relationship in your life (read that ponential husband) then he MUST understand the disease. Frankly, this is a deal breaker. If he is not going to support your change in lifestyle (including weight loss) you may need to consider another boyfriend.

Try to find a class where they emphasize the bloody details — gangrene, amputations, skin ulcers, blindness, Alzheimers, kidney disease. Find out what a Peritoneal Dialysis Cannula is, and ask him if he’d like to have sex while you are wearing THAT.

For that matter, diabetes effects the nerves, and many diabetic patients can’t enjoy sex. Would HE be quite so happy if YOU can’t enjoy it, or is he just a male chauvinist pig?

As for babies, diabetes during pregnancy can cause miscarriages or birth defects. Your control of your disease protects HIS future son or daughter!

I know that YOU are aware of the problems. but don’t let others "shame" you into losing control of your life. They don’t, AND THEY WON’T, understand. Control of diabetes is TOTALLY up to you, and in some cases you have to be a complete jerk about it — "That’s a wonderful meal, Mary, but i can’t eat any of it. Do you have water?"

Take care of yourself, and don’t worry about what others think.

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]]> By: dingding http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system/comment-page-1#comment-1612 dingding Thu, 29 Oct 2009 13:34:59 +0000 http://diabetesanddiet.net/diabetes-diet-meal-plan/having-diabetes-and-making-changes-with-no-support-system#comment-1612 You've been dating for 9 years? Any plans to marry? He seems like the type that wouldn't want to. Lack of commitment takes many forms, and the fact that you're still not married and he refuses to take your needs into account are two huge signs. The man is simply not committed to you. He has little interest in keeping you healthy. I'm not saying he shouldn't have some favorite snacks in the house, and you have to do your part and resist them. But to load up on them and not try to at least choose healthier restaurants and support you in substituting is just not OK. Take it from me...my first spouse was very apathetic about the whole diabetes thing, but my new husband is supportive and encouraging, yet doesn't try to manage me either. YOU are in control of what you eat. Gently telling a friend that you're watching your carbs is fine, just eat as much as you can without going overboard, it's OK on occasion. YOU do the shopping, or at least do your own. YOU need to take control of this situation. When you go to a friend's house, gently remind them that you like to load up on veggies and that would be appreciated. People don't understand, you're right, so you need to take ownership of your disease. It took me 15 years to learn that. <br><b>References : </b><br>Type 1 for 25 years, happy pumper for 5 You’ve been dating for 9 years? Any plans to marry? He seems like the type that wouldn’t want to. Lack of commitment takes many forms, and the fact that you’re still not married and he refuses to take your needs into account are two huge signs. The man is simply not committed to you. He has little interest in keeping you healthy. I’m not saying he shouldn’t have some favorite snacks in the house, and you have to do your part and resist them. But to load up on them and not try to at least choose healthier restaurants and support you in substituting is just not OK. Take it from me…my first spouse was very apathetic about the whole diabetes thing, but my new husband is supportive and encouraging, yet doesn’t try to manage me either.

YOU are in control of what you eat. Gently telling a friend that you’re watching your carbs is fine, just eat as much as you can without going overboard, it’s OK on occasion. YOU do the shopping, or at least do your own. YOU need to take control of this situation. When you go to a friend’s house, gently remind them that you like to load up on veggies and that would be appreciated. People don’t understand, you’re right, so you need to take ownership of your disease. It took me 15 years to learn that.
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Type 1 for 25 years, happy pumper for 5

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